When do you think about the ending? How you will leave the business you are building? When was the last time you thought about that? Have you ever? It’s a bit of a conversation stopper isn’t it?
It’s a bit like visiting a relative. They welcome you, and then, in the same breath ask “when will you be leaving?” (usually with an apology). There’s a practical purpose to this. For one thing, they’re trying to find out if they’ve got enough food in to feed you.
Unlike the visit to a relative, as the leader of a business, it would be unusual for someone to ask you about when you’re leaving. It’s a private question. It’s yours. You’re left to work it out. For these reasons, you don’t often hear the stories of those that have found their way to answers.
But I had the privilege of speaking with three agency founders, Ian Thompson of Thompson Brand Partners, Keith Forbes of Good and Martin Carr of True North about how they found theirs. And in speaking with them, a number of themes, drivers of their actions, came through strongly.
For Ian, “I had to step back, allow the team to run the business which was hard, especially where we differed on what we valued. I had to let some things ride that I wasn’t comfortable with.” For Martin it was about a conflict between “taking care of myself and holding the business together. When I listened closely to myself, I realised I couldn’t do both. I needed to step back to do the work on myself.”
For Martin (pictured) it was about wanting to get back to why he went into business. “It wasn’t to make money. It was for self-realisation. My work-life is a fundamental part of who I am. I came to realise that. If I fall out of love with that, I’m falling out of love with myself.”
Keith says he “could sense the business somehow saying ‘we want to move you out. Things need to blossom without you.’ And what I was doing, wasn’t ‘getting me out of bed.’”
For Ian, it was “a realisation that what I loved was the work, never loved running the business. That said, I was about to sever everything that connected me to that world. My sense of value and identity is attached to that. How do I know how much of me is wrapped up in this?”
For Keith it’s also about family, “spending more time with them. And thinking about other, philanthropic ways to use my time. I’ll never better Good or replicate it. The question for me is ‘how do I want to spend my time?’”.
For Martin, there is a feeling of “having been good to himself. My driving belief was that to do your best work you have to be prepared to hurt yourself. I thought it was a symbol of how much I cared. But it was more like self-flagellation. I’m proud I was brave and honest enough to say, ‘this doesn’t work, this is what I want instead’. And now I’m happy.”
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